Information for Parents and Carers of Teens
Parenting teenagers can be challenging, and many parents find it hard to adapt to changes in their child’s behaviour as they grow – we hope you find these practical tips and information helpful.
To help with your teens challenging behaviour here are some techniques to look at:
First is to help them to regulate and calm their fight/flight/freeze responses by staying in the present moment, breathe steadily, focus your attention on them, and clear your mind. If you yourself have a difficult time regulating, you could try these grounding techniques:
- Square breathing – this is where you breathe in for four seconds, hold for four seconds, breathe out for four seconds, hold for four seconds and repeat.
- Just chatting - taking your mind off the worry is a lot easier than you’d think sometimes.
- Going through my senses – to do this, name five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell and one thing you can taste.
Second is to relate and connect with them - relationships can be safe and positive, and can bring safety and comfort, love and joy. The message of health and wellbeing.
Thirdly we can support them to reflect, learn, remember, articulate and become self-assured
And lastly every time we repair a relationship together we can teach them that there is usually an exit strategy. That it’s usually possible to put things right and that we are often made stronger because of difficulties. So, there is no reason to panic or be afraid of ourselves or of each other.
It's good to have a reality check with your teens and show the things they can control and the things they can’t …..
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